How To Spend Time Without Your Phone

Is your phone the first thing you reach for in the morning and the last thing you touch before bed? Do you frequently pick it up ‘just to check’, only to look up forty-five minutes later wondering where the time has gone?

If you do, then you’re like the 99% (this is not a fact, don’t quote me) of people who are also addicted to their phones. They are our life these days. They are full of all our details, plans and banking so we would be pretty messed up without them.

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Films I’ve Watched Recently

If you know me, then you’ll know that my attention span is pretty rubbish. I’m working on improving this though and one way that I can do that is by watching more movies.

Simon and I recently got Odeon Limitless cards which means that you pay a certain amount per month and you can see however many films as you want. We haven’t had them long but we have already watched so many movies.

Not only am I watching more movies in the cinema but I’ve been trying to watch more movies at home too.

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How To Avoid Christmas Burnout

It’s the most wonderful time of the year, too bad it’s also the most stressful time of the year too. The end of the year is approaching and you can’t wait for that mini break. But first, Christmas time..

♡ Know your limits. You don’t have to attend every single Christmas party or event. It’s perfectly okay for you to say no. If you’ve been to a few parties and you’re feeling the impact then it’s simply okay to just say no. You don’t need to make up an excuse or feel bad about it. Just saying no is good enough.

♡ Eat well. We all know that Christmas bring lots of yummy treats such as sweets, pastries and even alcohol. However, that stuff can take a toll on your health and energy which will lead to burnout. Of course, it’s completely normal to eat the yummy foods and I definitely think you should be try to eat some fruit and veg in their too though.

♡ Watch where your money goes. I know that this is easier said then done but Christmas can get super expensive so watching your money is important. If you overspend then it could make you stressed and you could even end up being stressed into the New Year which isn’t what anyone wants. Christmas is about family and friends, not material items. If you’re short on cash then try getting crafty for gifts. They have more sentimental value and it’s a good way of saving some cash.

♡ Schedule yourself some you time. So many people’s diaries get filled up during the Christmas period that they end up completely exhausted by the new year. Before you go and completely fill up your diary, grab your planner or calendar or whatever you use and schedule yourself some free time where you can truly look after yourself. You could arrange to take yourself somewhere or you could just watch a film in your home while drinking hot chocolate. If your batteries are empty you can’t keep giving to others so recharging is essential. 

Whatever you end up doing this Christmas, I hope that it is absolutely wonderful. Don’t forget to look out for your own health during the Christmas period as remember that self care is important at this time of year.

Self Care Tips

Imagine that you’re looking after a young child or a toddler. You would want to make sure that they had the best care possible. You’d make sure that they got enough sleep, let them have time to play and have fun, make sure that they have 3 meals a day and keep them clean.

Now, imagine that child is you. You would have wanted to be treated like that as a child so why not treat yourself like that now that you’re an adult. Just because you don’t have someone parenting you, doesn’t mean that you need to stop caring about yourself. You deserve to be treated well so here’s some self care tips for you.

♡ Give yourself at least one day of rest per week. You could sit around all day binge watching tv, sleep in or stay in bed all day, take a day away from your phone, read a good book, take a slow and steady walk, eat something yummy or you could just spend some time with yourself.

♡ Create a list of things that you are grateful for or just things that make you happy. You can then look back on the list whenever you need a little pick me up. I find that even just making the list can put you in a great mood and leave a beautiful smile on your face.

♡ Turn off the notifications on your phone. I swear that this is an actual game changer. It’s such a good feeling because you end up being ‘free’ from your phone for a bit. Not having the notifications on takes away some of the pressure that you feel when you hear a ping. You’ll start spending less time on your phone and more time enjoying the real world.

♡ Do something nice for another person. You could write a letter to a friend, help a stranger on the street, buy something little for your partner or you could take someone out for a meal. These acts of kindness are so important because they make the other person feel loved and valued which helps both their mental health and your own. By making someone else smile, you will feel a sense of purpose and it makes you feel happier.

♡ Stay away from the negativity if you can. I know that this isn’t always possible but if you can avoid gossip, complaints or insults then you will instantly feel a little better. By surrounding yourself with more positive and radiant beings, you will feel so much happier.

♡ Practise self love. The way that you talk to yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately becomes your reality. So, try your hardest to fill your mind with positive thoughts and watch yourself blossom. Loving yourself is not an easy journey. You’re not going to just wake up one day and feel better. It’s a process. You’ll probably have setbacks but you’re going to get there in the end.

♡ Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. There’s so many people out there who are willing to listen and give advice. Call a family member or friend when you are facing a problem or when you’re feeling low. If you don’t want to talk to someone you know, there’s plenty of phone or online services that you can contact. Asking for help is not weak, it’s actually very brave.

No matter what kind of issues you are going through in life, you are not alone and there’s so many people out there that love and value you. So, please try to love yourself too.

Becoming The Best Version Of Myself

After writing my post about my life lessons, I realised that even though I have learnt a few life lessons throughout my life, there’s still more that I can improve on to make myself the best version of me that I can be.

I think it’s time that I start off a journey of becoming the best version of myself. I’m going to start by making lists of traits, habits and general things that I aspire to be. I thought what better place to share these lists than right here on my blog. By putting my thoughts into writing, it will be like taking them out of my very chaotic mind and it might even help to make me feel even more accountable. Hopefully sharing my goals and aspirations with you all will encourage me to do what I need to do to get to the places that I want to be.

Productivity:

  • I want to write more blog posts in advance so that when bloggers block hits, I have something to share with you all.
  • I want to make sure I keep my home, desk area and living spaces clean.
  • I want to stop procrastinating and get things done so I have time to relax when I need to in the evenings.
  • I want to stick to one journal system and actually use the journal to organise my days.
  • I want to start managing my monthly budgets better and start saving money.

Physical Health:

  • I want to lose five stone (70lbs) before my 24th birthday (November 2020).
  • I want to drink more water instead of lemonade and other fizzy drinks.
  • I want to stop eating cake as much.
  • I want to try to follow exercises from YouTube.
  • I want to make sure that I keep on top of my personal hygiene.

Mental health:

  • I want to try looking at situations more positively instead of worrying too much.
  • I want to show more gratitude to the people who are in my life.
  • I want to cut out the toxic people in my life and make friends to replace them.
  • I want to practise forgiveness for others to protect my own sanity.
  • I want to incorporate daily meditation into my life.
  • I want to set boundaries that will protect my own wellbeing.

Hobbies:

  • I want to start practising my drawing skills and painting more.
  • I want to actually learn to play my guitar instead of looking at it just sat in the corner.
  • I want to travel more and experience as many cultures as I can.
  • I want to rekindle my love for reading.
  • I want to start taking more photographs to capture precious life moments.

I’m hoping that now I have shared these goals with you, I’ll be able to keep up with this. It’s definitely going to be a hard journey and nothing will be accomplished overnight but it will be an interesting journey. I will probably focus on a small task per week or even longer so that I can create new habits and keep my thoughts organised.

If you lovely readers are also on a journey of self improvement, what’s on your list of things to improve on?

Life Lessons From 23 Years Of Life

Life is full of experiences, lessons, mistakes and journeys. Sometimes we encounter things that amaze us, other times they destroy us. Since I turned 23 today, I thought that I would tell you some of the lessons that I have learnt through my 23 years of life.

♡ What people think about you is their problem, not yours.
♡ Not everything that you do needs to be considered as productive. Do things for fun.
♡ Inspiration is everywhere.
♡ Your instincts are there for a reason. Trust them.
♡ Love is having someone you want to take care of. Not just someone to take care of you.
♡ You’ll never regret chasing your dreams.
♡ Choose who to forgive and accept back into your life and who you should let go of.
♡ Living your life your way is important.
♡ Failure is the best teacher.
♡ Don’t wait until a new year to start something new.
♡ In loss and failure there’s opportunity for growth.
♡ It’s not your job to change people.
♡ Practising self care habits is more important that you would think.
♡ Believe in your capabilities.
♡ Avoiding impulse buying is hard but it needs to be done.
♡ Love at first sight is bullshit. It’s just sexual attraction, not love.
♡ You need to work hard to achieve your dreams.
♡ Stay humble.
♡ The kind of people that you surround yourself with will change your view on life.
♡ Don’t worry about something that can’t be changed.
♡ Choose your battles wisely.
♡ You won’t always get what you wished for that doesn’t mean you should give up.
♡ If they want to leave, let them.
♡ Take more photographs. You’ll be happy you did one day.
♡ Change can set you free.
♡ Stop trying to explain yourself to people who don’t want to listen.
♡ Kindness is free.
♡ Some people are just passing through to teach you lessons in life.
♡ Make life count and do what makes you happy.

Remember, it is within your power to live the life that you want. The people who are with you can only support you and encourage you as you reach for your goals. So, go and live the life you want.

What I Hope To See For 2020 Blogging

I can’t tell if it’s just me or if the world of blogging seems to be turning more and more selfish. People only tend to be commenting on other people’s posts if they will get a comment back. People only tend to retweet someone’s promo tweet if they think you’ll retweet theirs. It’s as if everyone is just out for themselves and they will only help you if it will also help them.

Don’t get me wrong, there are nice people out there who just want to help you. Some of the people in the blogosphere are so so so kind that I just want to hug them and never let them go!

There are two things that I just wish people would start doing in the world of blogging..

Actually Read Blogger’s Posts

I feel like this is the one thing that people aren’t doing anymore. When people are taking part in a comment swap, they scan the post and leave a very generic comment. It kind of annoys me though because people spend a lot of time writing there posts. Sure, we love getting comments but if you’re anything like me, I am pretty sure that you would would way prefer people to actually read the post.

More writing instead of 100 photos per post

Something that I noticed recently is that people are hardly writing things on their blog anymore. They are becoming more and more like photo diaries. Don’t get me wrong, I do love looking at photos but if I want to do that then I will head over to Instagram. If I’m reading your blog then I mostly want to hear what you have to see and maybe see the odd photo or two throughout the post. Maybe that’s just my personal preference but that’s just what I want to see.

I hope that the world of blogging in 2020 brings you lots of joy no matter what you choose to do with your blog. What would you like to see more of in the blogosphere?