100 Things To Be Grateful For

I know that 2020 really hasn’t been a great year for most people, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all doom and gloom.

Sometimes you might have to search pretty hard for something to be grateful for but there will always be something. Even when you feel like your day is going terribly, there’s still something to be grateful for.

When you really think about it, there is so much we have to be grateful for. Here are 100 of those things.

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Self Care Ideas For A Bad Mental Health Day

Self care is important all the time can it can be difficult to practise self care when you’re going through a tough time.

On bad mental health days, it can feel like nothing is possible and we completely forget to take care of ourselves. We might even end up wrapping ourselves in a blanket and doing nothing all day.

However, when you feel like that, it’s time to pause, take a deep breath and take care of yourself. This is the perfect time to practise self care.

I have created this super simple list of ideas so that when you’re having a bad mental health day, you have some ideas of little self care activities you can try.

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Valentine’s Day Tag (Even Though I Don’t Care For It)

I was reading blogs, as I spend the majority of my life doing and one of the posts that I ended up reading was Valentines Day Tag from Hey Little Tulip and it made me want to try the tag too.

Valentine’s Day has never been something that I really cared for but I’m trying to look at it more positively this year.

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Self Care Tips

Imagine that you’re looking after a young child or a toddler. You would want to make sure that they had the best care possible. You’d make sure that they got enough sleep, let them have time to play and have fun, make sure that they have 3 meals a day and keep them clean.

Now, imagine that child is you. You would have wanted to be treated like that as a child so why not treat yourself like that now that you’re an adult. Just because you don’t have someone parenting you, doesn’t mean that you need to stop caring about yourself. You deserve to be treated well so here’s some self care tips for you.

♡ Give yourself at least one day of rest per week. You could sit around all day binge watching tv, sleep in or stay in bed all day, take a day away from your phone, read a good book, take a slow and steady walk, eat something yummy or you could just spend some time with yourself.

♡ Create a list of things that you are grateful for or just things that make you happy. You can then look back on the list whenever you need a little pick me up. I find that even just making the list can put you in a great mood and leave a beautiful smile on your face.

♡ Turn off the notifications on your phone. I swear that this is an actual game changer. It’s such a good feeling because you end up being ‘free’ from your phone for a bit. Not having the notifications on takes away some of the pressure that you feel when you hear a ping. You’ll start spending less time on your phone and more time enjoying the real world.

♡ Do something nice for another person. You could write a letter to a friend, help a stranger on the street, buy something little for your partner or you could take someone out for a meal. These acts of kindness are so important because they make the other person feel loved and valued which helps both their mental health and your own. By making someone else smile, you will feel a sense of purpose and it makes you feel happier.

♡ Stay away from the negativity if you can. I know that this isn’t always possible but if you can avoid gossip, complaints or insults then you will instantly feel a little better. By surrounding yourself with more positive and radiant beings, you will feel so much happier.

♡ Practise self love. The way that you talk to yourself matters. What you tell yourself ultimately becomes your reality. So, try your hardest to fill your mind with positive thoughts and watch yourself blossom. Loving yourself is not an easy journey. You’re not going to just wake up one day and feel better. It’s a process. You’ll probably have setbacks but you’re going to get there in the end.

♡ Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. There’s so many people out there who are willing to listen and give advice. Call a family member or friend when you are facing a problem or when you’re feeling low. If you don’t want to talk to someone you know, there’s plenty of phone or online services that you can contact. Asking for help is not weak, it’s actually very brave.

No matter what kind of issues you are going through in life, you are not alone and there’s so many people out there that love and value you. So, please try to love yourself too.

Becoming The Best Version Of Myself

After writing my post about my life lessons, I realised that even though I have learnt a few life lessons throughout my life, there’s still more that I can improve on to make myself the best version of me that I can be.

I think it’s time that I start off a journey of becoming the best version of myself. I’m going to start by making lists of traits, habits and general things that I aspire to be. I thought what better place to share these lists than right here on my blog. By putting my thoughts into writing, it will be like taking them out of my very chaotic mind and it might even help to make me feel even more accountable. Hopefully sharing my goals and aspirations with you all will encourage me to do what I need to do to get to the places that I want to be.

Productivity:

  • I want to write more blog posts in advance so that when bloggers block hits, I have something to share with you all.
  • I want to make sure I keep my home, desk area and living spaces clean.
  • I want to stop procrastinating and get things done so I have time to relax when I need to in the evenings.
  • I want to stick to one journal system and actually use the journal to organise my days.
  • I want to start managing my monthly budgets better and start saving money.

Physical Health:

  • I want to lose five stone (70lbs) before my 24th birthday (November 2020).
  • I want to drink more water instead of lemonade and other fizzy drinks.
  • I want to stop eating cake as much.
  • I want to try to follow exercises from YouTube.
  • I want to make sure that I keep on top of my personal hygiene.

Mental health:

  • I want to try looking at situations more positively instead of worrying too much.
  • I want to show more gratitude to the people who are in my life.
  • I want to cut out the toxic people in my life and make friends to replace them.
  • I want to practise forgiveness for others to protect my own sanity.
  • I want to incorporate daily meditation into my life.
  • I want to set boundaries that will protect my own wellbeing.

Hobbies:

  • I want to start practising my drawing skills and painting more.
  • I want to actually learn to play my guitar instead of looking at it just sat in the corner.
  • I want to travel more and experience as many cultures as I can.
  • I want to rekindle my love for reading.
  • I want to start taking more photographs to capture precious life moments.

I’m hoping that now I have shared these goals with you, I’ll be able to keep up with this. It’s definitely going to be a hard journey and nothing will be accomplished overnight but it will be an interesting journey. I will probably focus on a small task per week or even longer so that I can create new habits and keep my thoughts organised.

If you lovely readers are also on a journey of self improvement, what’s on your list of things to improve on?

5 Ways To Unwind On A Sunday

It’s Sunday which means you’re probably stressing out about the week ahead if you’re anything like me.

That’s not what Sunday’s are for though. Let’s all make it our mission to relax this Sunday and plan for the week ahead..

But how can we do that?!

Sleep well

Let’s be honest, no one sleeps well in the week. With all of life responsibilities and work, education or anything like that. Sleep just isn’t on the table. That is why you should take this whole weekend as an opportunity to catch up on sleep. Rest your precious heads.

Spend some quality time with your loved ones

You know those people that are so busy during the week that you never get to see..? Well spend your weekend with them. Talk about what you got up to during the week and chat all about your plans for the week ahead. You could even go out for an adventure or a date!

Reflect and plan

Think about all the things that you got up to last week and think about what you did right and what you could have done better. Use your new found knowledge to improve the week ahead.

Unplug

The thing with society these days is that we are all completely attached to our phones. We use them to see any local and world news and we use them to communicate with people. Sometimes it’s checking your emails before work the next morning and sometimes it’s just saying hi to a friend. Whatever it is, sometimes you just need to unplug and spend a little time with yourself.

Get excited for Monday

You know that Monday that is quickly approaching?! Well it’s time to get hyped as you have an opportunity to create new memories and experience new things. Get excited because you are going to accomplish great things tomorrow!

I hope that these tips help you to make the most of your Sunday and help you to prepare for Monday!

Fat Hygiene

Let’s talk a little bit about fat hygiene. Embarrassing, I know but it’s something that need to be talked about.

There’s topics in life that no one wants to talk about. Those topics include things like periods, sex and most things to do with fatter bodies. If you’re a fat babe like myself, you’ll probably not want to go around talking about fat hygiene! That is why I’m writing this post.

Hygiene is important for literally everyone. No matter what size you are, you need to be clean! However, it can be harder for bigger bodies as we have rolls and saggy bits that can be harder to reach or to keep clean.

If you asked me a few years ago, how I kept my fat body clean then I wouldn’t know what to say. I didn’t know that fat people needed to do things differently or anything like that. I figured you just smothered your body in shower gel and you’re clean.

If you ask me now, I would have a completely different answer for you. For me, it was hard at first to come to the conclusion that I needed to do things differently. I didn’t like being different but now I’m okay with it.

But that’s enough of talking about me. You aren’t here to hear my story, you’re here for advice so advice I shall give you.

If you have some fat rolls, saggy skin or anything that rubs, you’ll know about how sweaty those areas can get. If you don’t clean them areas enough, they will get a bit sticky and smelly. I want to specially talk about a few areas that tend to be a difficult area for some fat people.

Tummy

Okay, I thought that I would start here as this is the biggest problem area for me personally. I hate my lower tummy. It is saggy and full of rolls. They overlap and rub which causes a lot of sweat, especially in the hot weather. It happens in the cold weather too though.

Unfortunately, I don’t have many tips for this as I’m still working it all about for myself but for me, I need to shower often to help this situation. When you are showering, don’t be afraid to lift up your rolls and fully clean underneath. I use a shower puff and really scrub away the dirt! You can pick them up for around 50p in most shops and they are definitely worth it. If you can’t reach underneath, you could try a shower puff on a stick.

Underarms

Armpit sweat is horrible and is probably the most smelly part for me. If I don’t shower often enough then they start to really smell. I have very sensitive skin so I can’t use most deodorants. However, I do use Avon deodorant which is scent free and great for me. It’s a roll on which I find keep you smelling fresh for longer.

Underboob

If you’re a woman and have boobs, you’ll probably know about under-boob sweat. It’s a nightmare!

Because my tummy is big and so are my boobs, it makes everything very sweaty. If I don’t use my shower puff under my boobs, sweat gathers and make me very itchy. It is one of the most annoying things ever.

To combat this, I try to wear a bra with a good lift. This stops the boob sweat a little and stops my boobs from rubbing on my tummy. If that doesn’t work, a little bit of roll on deodorant under the boobs helps a lot. Just make sure to shower at the end of the day and wash it off so it doesn’t make you just as itchy.

Thighs

They say that mermaids don’t have thigh gaps and that is true but neither do I. My thighs touch and so do many other people’s. If your thighs touch or rub then you know that it’s a nightmare in the summer. The chub rub is awful!

To stop this, there are a few options. You can try wearing cycling shorts under a dress or skirt, you can rub roll on deodorant on your thighs or you can try applying talc on your thighs. All of these things have worked for me. I hope they work for you.

Also, the value of a person is not dependent on their smell. Even if you do end up a bit stinky, you are still a valuable and worthwhile person, okay?

Getting Back To My Old Self

I know that growing up is inevitable. I know that we are bound to change over time. I know that our apperances will change as we age. I know all that!

Do you think it’s possible to age gracefully? I see all these celebrities growing older but hardly changing. Maybe it’s some kind of witchcraft or something, I simply just don’t know. However, when it comes to me, I’m ageing disgracefully.

I look at these photos and feel incredibly sad. I feel like I let myself go and I feel like I didn’t look after myself the way that I wish I did.

I put on weight, cut my hair too short, stopped wearing makeup, stopped dressing in clothing that made me happy and I even became more depressed.

I was sharing these photos on Twitter and people kept responding with lovely things like ‘beautiful in all’ and all that kind of stuff. Don’t get my wrong, I’m super grateful for all the nice comments and they do make me feel a little better but at the end of the day, if I’m not happy with myself then I need to do something about it.

That is why, things are going to be changing around here and my life.

I’m going to get back on the weight loss game so you can actually see my jaw line again. I’m going to get back into fashion and wear clothing that makes me feel great. I’m going to start wearing make up again and practiasing different styles until I find one that I’m happy with. I’m going to grow my hair to a longer length so I can style it different ways. And most importantly, I am going to work on getting better mentally.

I’m going to start documenting my lifestyle changes on my blog, YouTube channel, Fitness Insta and Twitter. If you want to keep up to date with my life changes then I definitely recommending checking out my other socials.