As a single woman who has been through quite a few failed relationships, I feel like there’s quite a lot of things I’ve learned now that I wish someone would have told me when I first started dating.
Back in June, I shared a post with you all where I explained that I was going through a break up. Since then I have been in and out of the dating scene and it just made me realise a few things that I felt like I should share.
Ah, social media. My favourite way to waste hours of my day.
Back at the start of 2020 (which feels like a lifetime ago), I shared my 2020 social media strategies. I’m not really sure if they helped me all that much during the year, but that’s not going to stop me from sharing my social media plans for 2021.
Social media is becoming very overwhelming these days. There’s topics that are becoming more actively spoken about and those topics can be rather triggering. Some people might need to take a social media break and some people feel completely fine to carry on using their accounts as normal. All reactions are valid and you’ve got to do what’s best for you.
Personally, social media is my life. I don’t have many friends or family so social media is how I talk to people and see what is happening in the world. If I take that away from myself then I would probably feel completely lost. That’s what I decided to be more mindful of my social media uses.
Whether you find social media triggering or you just want to be more aware of your social media usage, mindfulness practises are important for anyone online.
Instagram is such a huge online platform so it only makes sense to make the most of it when you’re trying to grow your online life. Instagram stories just keep on getting better so there’s no time to wait when it comes to using them.
Whether you use Instagram for fun, or you use it to grow a business, there’s so much you can do on Instagram stories so I thought that I would show you just a few ideas that I have.
I really don’t know why but starting my day with a photo of my ‘waking up’ view is super satisfying. You might not think the same but that’s what is so wonderful about Instagram stories. You can post whatever you want.
I also find that I’m way more active on Instagram stories that day if I upload pretty much as soon as I wake up.
I am definitely one of those people who’s obsessed with their devices. The very first thing I do in the morning is check my phone and the last things that I do before going to sleep is check I won’t miss out on anything. Even if I wake up in the night, I have a quick scroll through Twitter and Instagram before trying to get back to sleep. Do you do this too?
Even though I probably spend way too much time on my iPhone, I thought I would share some of my favourite apps with you all so that you can all become addicted too.
I try to mix my iPhone full of fun apps and app that make me be productive so I figured that I would show you a few from each of these types.
Twitter is one of the biggest social media platforms. There are 330 million monthly active users and 145 million daily active users on Twitter. With so many users, it’s pretty easy to see why businesses and brands can benefit from using the platform.
When you’re just a small blogger, the biggest question is how can you get some of those 330 million users to notice your account and engage with you.
Most bloggers head into Twitter with such enthusiasm which is great. The problem only comes when you seem to be pumping out a lot of content and no one seems to be noticing.
Building a following on any social media platform can take time and a lot of work. There are definitely strategies that can help you increase your Twitter engagement, leading to more clicks, increased brand awareness, and more conversions.
I realise that we are over halfway through the first month of 2020 but I feel like sharing this post will help myself and while I’m here, it might help you out too.
During 2019, I grew gradually on most of my social media accounts. I think that the only platform that didn’t grow much was Instagram as I didn’t put in much effort on that platform at all.
Don’t get me wrong, I do love Instagram for the Stories and keeping up with people’s lives but I never know what to post on my feed which makes my photo uploads a little bit messy so people won’t care for my account, which is fine because everyone is allowed to enjoy or not enjoy whatever they want.
“Enjoy your own life without comparing it with that of another.”
Imagine how you would feel if you compared the strength of others to your own weaknesses? How do you think you’d size up? Do you think you would feel good? Probably not. Well, that is what happens when you compare yourself to others.
The funny part is, people compare themselves to others online all the time. Some people only do it from time to time and others do it pretty often. It all depends on the person’s confidence. We definitely all do it though.
For example, let’s compare me to a super famous blogger. They have a beautiful blog and an amazing writing style but that doesn’t mean that I’m not good in my own way too. In the past, I would look at a popular blogger and think about how I’m just not cut out for the blogosphere. That’s definitely not the case though. There’s room for everyone here.
Comparing myself to a popular blogger is not a fair comparison. That is because the popular blogger isn’t me. They aren’t the same person as me and the only person that I should compare myself to is myself.
I aim to be the best version of myself and that is who I should be comparing myself to.
What Are The Effects Of Online Comparison?
If you don’t see anything wrong with comparing yourself to others then let’s just stop for a minute and create a little list.
It’s usually an unfair comparison to start with. Comparing your weaknesses to someone’s strengths will mka eyou look bad from the get go.
Even comparing strength to strength will sometimes mean that you come off worse. You might not be as talented as the person but it’s doesn’t mean that you aren’t still talented and you might be even more talented then them when it comes to something else.
If you think you won the little comparison game, then you will gain a very short lived ego boost. This boost won’t last long as you’ll soon find someone else to compare yourself to.
You can end up resenting the person you compare yourself to even though they haven’t done anything wrong.
Comparing yourself to other’s can even knock down their confidence as well as your own. You don’t want to upset someone just because you are insecure yourself.
“ Comparison is the thief of joy.”
How Do You Break The Habit Of Comparing Yourself?
So how do you break this cycle of comparing yourself with others? Here are some tips I’ve found useful:
Become more conscious. Look out for moments when you are comparing yourself to someone else. It’s a hard habit to break but it will be worth it. By keeping the habit at the forefront of your mind, you will have more self-awareness of what you are doing.
Stop yourself as soon as you notice what is happening. When the habit is on your mind, you’ll be read it nip it in the bud before it even gets started.
It’s important to notice your own accomplishments. Maybe you could write a list of all the big and small things that you have achieved and you can look at the list every single day. This will make you feel like you are doing well. Therefore, you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to others.
Learn that it’s okay not to be perfect. No one is perfect at all. We are all imperfect and that’s what makes us so wonderful. Emotionally, we feel bad when we look at someone ‘better’ than us. We see that person as perfect and we idolise them. You need to remember, no one is perfect and that’s okay.
Lastly, it’s a good habit to love people and respect people around you. Don’t compare yourself to them and don’t put them down when you think you’re better than them. It doesn’t matter how many followers someone has, you should love and appreciate them anyway.
So, how about we all make a new deal. Let’s all stop comparing ourselves to others online and in person!