As a single woman who has been through quite a few failed relationships, I feel like there’s quite a lot of things I’ve learned now that I wish someone would have told me when I first started dating.
Back in June, I shared a post with you all where I explained that I was going through a break up. Since then I have been in and out of the dating scene and it just made me realise a few things that I felt like I should share.
Social media is becoming very overwhelming these days. There’s topics that are becoming more actively spoken about and those topics can be rather triggering. Some people might need to take a social media break and some people feel completely fine to carry on using their accounts as normal. All reactions are valid and you’ve got to do what’s best for you.
Personally, social media is my life. I don’t have many friends or family so social media is how I talk to people and see what is happening in the world. If I take that away from myself then I would probably feel completely lost. That’s what I decided to be more mindful of my social media uses.
Whether you find social media triggering or you just want to be more aware of your social media usage, mindfulness practises are important for anyone online.
You probably already know that yesterday at 8:30pm, Boris Johnson announced that the UK was going into lockdown. He stated that there’s now only a few reasons that you are allowed to leave the house and that the police will have more power now.
If you didn’t quite catch what he was saying, here’s the only times you’re allowed to leave the house:
Shopping for basic necessities
One form of exercise a day
Medical need, to provide care or to help a vulnerable person
Travelling to and from work (if completely necessary)
This will be a 3 week lockdown and then the situation will be reassessed.
I know that that is exactly what this country needs but I can also understand that this is going to be hard for people’s mental health, including mine.
I think we all have an inbuilt desire to be productive. We have goals and we hope to reach them as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, if you’re not born into a super rich family or you don’t have all the luck in the world, then you’ll probably have to work for your goals.
If you’re anything like me, then as soon as you’ve found a new goal or dream and you’ve settled on it, then you’ll want to get working on it right away. You’ll be making a list of everything that needs to get done. You’ll be thinking of ways to make it all perfect. Sound familiar? It probably does and that’s because we have all been there.
I think the problem is that we all want to be seen as ‘being productive’. We want to be known as the one who ‘get’s stuff done’. There’s a problem with this mindset though; When do we rest and reset if we are always being productive?!
It’s the most wonderful time of the year, too bad it’s also the most stressful time of the year too. The end of the year is approaching and you can’t wait for that mini break. But first, Christmas time..
♡ Know your limits. You don’t have to attend every single Christmas party or event. It’s perfectly okay for you to say no. If you’ve been to a few parties and you’re feeling the impact then it’s simply okay to just say no. You don’t need to make up an excuse or feel bad about it. Just saying no is good enough.
♡ Eat well. We all know that Christmas bring lots of yummy treats such as sweets, pastries and even alcohol. However, that stuff can take a toll on your health and energy which will lead to burnout. Of course, it’s completely normal to eat the yummy foods and I definitely think you should be try to eat some fruit and veg in their too though.
♡ Watch where your money goes. I know that this is easier said then done but Christmas can get super expensive so watching your money is important. If you overspend then it could make you stressed and you could even end up being stressed into the New Year which isn’t what anyone wants. Christmas is about family and friends, not material items. If you’re short on cash then try getting crafty for gifts. They have more sentimental value and it’s a good way of saving some cash.
♡ Schedule yourself some you time. So many people’s diaries get filled up during the Christmas period that they end up completely exhausted by the new year. Before you go and completely fill up your diary, grab your planner or calendar or whatever you use and schedule yourself some free time where you can truly look after yourself. You could arrange to take yourself somewhere or you could just watch a film in your home while drinking hot chocolate. If your batteries are empty you can’t keep giving to others so recharging is essential.
Whatever you end up doing this Christmas, I hope that it is absolutely wonderful. Don’t forget to look out for your own health during the Christmas period as remember that self care is important at this time of year.
After writing my post about my life lessons, I realised that even though I have learnt a few life lessons throughout my life, there’s still more that I can improve on to make myself the best version of me that I can be.
I think it’s time that I start off a journey of becoming the best version of myself. I’m going to start by making lists of traits, habits and general things that I aspire to be. I thought what better place to share these lists than right here on my blog. By putting my thoughts into writing, it will be like taking them out of my very chaotic mind and it might even help to make me feel even more accountable. Hopefully sharing my goals and aspirations with you all will encourage me to do what I need to do to get to the places that I want to be.
I want to write more blog posts in advance so that when bloggers block hits, I have something to share with you all.
I want to make sure I keep my home, desk area and living spaces clean.
I want to stop procrastinating and get things done so I have time to relax when I need to in the evenings.
I want to stick to one journal system and actually use the journal to organise my days.
I want to start managing my monthly budgets better and start saving money.
I want to lose five stone (70lbs) before my 24th birthday (November 2020).
I want to drink more water instead of lemonade and other fizzy drinks.
I want to stop eating cake as much.
I want to try to follow exercises from YouTube.
I want to make sure that I keep on top of my personal hygiene.
I want to try looking at situations more positively instead of worrying too much.
I want to show more gratitude to the people who are in my life.
I want to cut out the toxic people in my life and make friends to replace them.
I want to practise forgiveness for others to protect my own sanity.
I want to incorporate daily meditation into my life.
I want to set boundaries that will protect my own wellbeing.
I want to start practising my drawing skills and painting more.
I want to actually learn to play my guitar instead of looking at it just sat in the corner.
I want to travel more and experience as many cultures as I can.
I want to rekindle my love for reading.
I want to start taking more photographs to capture precious life moments.
I’m hoping that now I have shared these goals with you, I’ll be able to keep up with this. It’s definitely going to be a hard journey and nothing will be accomplished overnight but it will be an interesting journey. I will probably focus on a small task per week or even longer so that I can create new habits and keep my thoughts organised.
If you lovely readers are also on a journey of self improvement, what’s on your list of things to improve on?